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Before They Were Men: Essays on Manhood, Compassion, and What Went Wrong

Before They Were Men: Essays on Manhood, Compassion, and What Went Wrong

Tobia, Jacob

Hardcover

Men's StudiesSexuality

Publisher Price: $30.00

ISBN10: 0593797949
ISBN13: 9780593797945
Publisher: Harmony
Published: Aug 26 2025
Pages: 320
Weight: 1.20
Height: 1.30 Width: 6.10 Depth: 9.40
Language: English
Gender nonconforming thought leader and bestselling author Jacob Tobia offers a paradigm-shifting argument for fundamentally reframing how we think about men.

A reckoning, a manifesto, a wellspring of curiosity, and an invitation to consider better ways of imagining masculinity.--Amanda Montell, New York Times bestselling author of The Age of Magical Overthinking, Cultish, and Wordslut

The conversation about masculinity, patriarchy, and misogyny has never been so prominent or heated. Alarmed by a new generation of angry, broken young men, genderqueer writer Jacob Tobia sets out to explore what's going on and comes to a shocking conclusion: Emotionally and spiritually speaking, men and boys may be the ones suffering the most under the gender binary right now.

Tobia should know. For their gender-defying adolescent heart, the nonconsensual process of being made a man was crushing. After spending a lifetime fleeing manhood and masculinity, they dare to ask the question: What happens if we stop understanding men as categorical beneficiaries of patriarchal institutions and start understanding them for what they are--co-survivors of patriarchy itself?

In a series of personal and revolutionary essays, Before They Were Men argues that we must rewire much of our framework of feminism. Through this much-needed nonbinary intervention into a two-sided discourse gone stale, Tobia boldly posits compassion and empathy as the forces that will lead men--and us all--to a brighter future. Urgent, surprising, and counterintuitive, their book covers topics such as

- the unspoken body image issues and dysmorphia confronting men and boys

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