Open Daily: 10am - 10pm | Alley door pickup 10am - 7pm 3038 Hennepin Ave Minneapolis, MN
612-822-4611

  • Open Daily: 10am - 10pm
    Alley-side Pickup: 10am - 7pm

    3038 Hennepin Ave Minneapolis, MN
    612-822-4611

Open Daily: 10am - 10pm | Alley-side Pickup: 10am - 7pm
3038 Hennepin Ave Minneapolis, MN
612-822-4611
The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love

The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love

Fehr, Colette Jane, Lmft Lmhc

Hardcover

General PsychologyRelationshipsSelf-Help

Publisher Price: $30.00

ISBN10: 0593852745
ISBN13: 9780593852743
Publisher: G.P. Putnam's Sons
Published: Feb 3 2026
Pages: 272
Weight: 0.90
Height: 1.30 Width: 6.20 Depth: 9.10
Language: English
An empowering, healing guide that reveals the true cost of avoidant behavior in a relationship--disconnection, disengagement, and divorce--and shows how we can instead learn to speak up and start connecting with the ones we love most.

I wish I had spoken up sooner.

People think relationships fail because of deal breakers like infidelity, finances, or parenting problems. But the real culprit is often much less dramatic: emotional disconnection after years of staying silent and avoiding conflict. We're afraid to say what we need because we worry about what will come next.

Avoidant behavior--the need to keep the peace rather than dealing with conflict head on--isn't our fault. Our ingrained attachment wiring urges us to sidestep day-to-day disputes and brush lingering problems under the rug. But silence is a losing proposition in the long term, leading us to self-abandon and essentially quiet quit our relationships.

We can make another choice. In The Cost of Quiet, licensed marriage and family therapist Colette Jane Fehr shines a light on the epidemic of avoidant behavior and how to overcome it. Drawing from the latest attachment science and evidence-based therapies she's used to repair the bond between hundreds of couples, Fehr gives us the tools to approach those we love with openness, honesty, and vulnerability. The ultimate goal: a securely attached relationship that engages with conflict productively, and the confidence that comes from speaking up and being heard--because a good relationship is worth fighting for.

Also in

Relationships

View All