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How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not to
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General PsychologyRelationshipsSelf-Help
Publisher Price: $16.99
ISBN13: 9780060009311
Publisher: Harper Paperbacks
Published: Feb 1 2005
Pages: 254
Weight: 0.44
Height: 0.65 Width: 5.38 Depth: 7.96
Language: English
Awards: Books for a Better Life
If you are struggling with issues of betrayal--or the challenge of whether and how to forgive--here is the most helpful and surprising book you will ever find on the subject.--Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger
Until now, we have been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Janis Spring, a gifted therapist and the award-winning author of After the Affair, proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives--without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for genuine forgiveness--one that asks as much of the offender as it does of us.
This bold and healing book offers step-by-step, concrete instructions that help us make peace with others and with ourselves, while answering such crucial questions as these:
- How do I forgive someone who is unremorseful or dead?When is forgiveness cheap?What is wrong with refusing to forgive?How can the offender earn forgiveness?How do we forgive ourselves for hurting another human being?
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