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Perfectionism - From must to be: The Way Out of Control, Fear and Self-Criticism Towards peace, trust and self-acceptance
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ISBN13: 9798270325688
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: Oct 19 2025
Pages: 140
Weight: 0.43
Height: 0.30 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
Publisher: Independently Published
Published: Oct 19 2025
Pages: 140
Weight: 0.43
Height: 0.30 Width: 6.00 Depth: 9.00
Language: English
Perfectionism - From must to be
The path from control, fear and self-criticism to peace, trust and self-acceptance. We live in a time when performance, comparison and self-optimization have become the benchmark.
Many people carry the silent faith: I am only valuable when I am perfect. But this faith is exhausted. It makes life narrow, breath shallow and heart tired.
The path from control, fear and self-criticism to peace, trust and self-acceptance. We live in a time when performance, comparison and self-optimization have become the benchmark.
Many people carry the silent faith: I am only valuable when I am perfect. But this faith is exhausted. It makes life narrow, breath shallow and heart tired.
This book is an invitation to stop. Rocco Weigelt guides you sensitively and clearly through the psychological and emotional roots of perfectionism - and shows how you find your way back to inner peace step by step.
Not through self-discipline, but through self-acceptance.
Not through control, but through trust. In 13 in-depth chapters, you learn, where the urge for perfection comes from, Why self-criticism and shame keep you small, how fear, exhaustion and burnout arise from this, and how you can finally see yourself with compassion. A book full of understanding, gentleness and truth -
for all those who have tried to be enough all their lives,
and now feel: It's time to be simple.
You don't have to change to be lovable.
You can love yourself to change.
Not through self-discipline, but through self-acceptance.
Not through control, but through trust. In 13 in-depth chapters, you learn, where the urge for perfection comes from, Why self-criticism and shame keep you small, how fear, exhaustion and burnout arise from this, and how you can finally see yourself with compassion. A book full of understanding, gentleness and truth -
for all those who have tried to be enough all their lives,
and now feel: It's time to be simple.
You don't have to change to be lovable.
You can love yourself to change.
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